Sunday, August 20, 2006

Learning in Reality TV

The past two weekends were nuts!!! It felt like being in a different reality. A reality seperate from that of our daily lives, a reality where we have different goals, a reality where "God" was constantly recording us on camera! Yeap, that's what Reality TV feels like. A whole new world, fantastical and magical, but it definitely ain't no magic carpet ride.

I'm not supposed to say too much coz it'll spoil all the suspense for viewers. But I'll say enough to keep my homies updated. If you wanna know more, watch the show!

The 15 eligible bachelors were all great people (myself included, hehe). We all had our own distinct personalities, styles and talents. There was a chef who specialized in desserts, a smooth-talking salesman, two comedians (unfortunately I'm not one of them), a sharp-looking lawyer, a Chindian student who was probably the best looking among us all, another student who taught music as a side-income, an aggressive and tactical paintballer, a guy who looked better than many Taiwanese boyband members, a financial consultant who was both smooth and sincere, an owner of an IT company who had a highly strategic mind, the most senior and salsa lovin' uncle, someone who looked like he just popped out from Young and Dangerous 4, and of course, me.

I should also mention our host, our eye-candy when the other girls weren't around, and our morale booster, Stephanie Chai (www.stephaniechai.com. Steph if you ever read this, you should be paying me for advertising). Suprisingly, she turned out to be Sharlenes Sarawakian childhood friend. What a small Malaysia. As I got to know these people better, I knew that it was gonna be one tough game to play.

I shouldn't say too much about the target because the many surprises and twists that are associated with her (no, the surprise is not that she is a man. Definitely a highly attractive and elegant womanly woman). But all I can say is that I wasn't very likable on the first episode. What I tried to do was something that I learned from a book that I read, which was to lower a girls ego especially when she already had high status. I think I went overboard because I was told that my words were really sharp. Lisa, if you are reading this, I am sure that you're laughing your ass off. Obviously I had to change my game.

On the second episode, I found out that by just being myself, I realized I had more potential than I initially expected. I could dance, I knew massage in more depth than just back rubbing, I could write simple poems, and fortunately or unfortunately, I am more sensitive and soft at heart than I'd like to admit myself to be. That was one of the things I have discovered by being in this show. But now that I am aware of it, I could use it to my advantage. However, competing with others who had such large and distinct personalities made just being myself insufficient. Apart from that, I was the second youngest person among all of them. So I figured that I had to be myself, but amplify it by 6 times.

No doubt I also learned several shortcomings within me. My conversational skills seemed to have deteriorated, or maybe it was just lousy since the beginning. Somehow I feel that it's caused by my preoccupation to say something original and witty instead of just saying something from the heart. Another thing I found out is that I can't capture peoples sense of humour and use it to make people laugh. The jokes I make is only appreciated by you peeps in Melbourne (most of the time, i hope) and a handful of guys and sometimes girls in the show. I wonder how the hell am I supposed to learn this skill.

I am gonna learn alot more about myself as the shooting goes on. But til the next episode, keep learnin!!!

4 Comments:

Blogger leonhart said...

Wow! That babe is the host?? Really not sure whether that 'dream girl' can top that!

Oh yeah btw, I think she looks like that dutch girl from Flare (from certain angle).. Or is it just that anyone with mixed blood looks the same from certain angle??

Maybe u want to post up the airing date/time so us peeps can watch it!

August 21, 2006 at 5:51 AM  
Blogger Ness said...

what dutch flare girl..?!?!

August 21, 2006 at 6:33 AM  
Blogger Ningning said...

dutch girl? christina or jules? anywayz... ahhhhh derrick we can't watch the show here!!!!!!! you HAVE to update us!!!!!! i love watching reality TV and you're actually in one!

August 21, 2006 at 7:27 AM  
Blogger joonwin said...

Hey, did you neg and not rescue? I myself realize you can't overdo it. Cos ppl may just think you're mean. So just enough to get her attention. And yeah, if you remember the book, away from the PUA material, the only thing you have left is you and your personality, so be ready to just 'boast' a little, but prove yourself immediately. Instant wow and approval!
Don't worry about conversation, if you go with the flow, it'll happen. You ARE smart and witty, just use it when it does hit you, don't have to try too hard. The best conversation is to make her talk about herself (favourite topic!)

By the way, i'm going all out for you! if i could, i'd be in the crowd waving big signs saying "DERRICK MACHO MAN" or something...

Aim for both what a woman wants in short term (fun and excitement, company etc) and long term (commitment, trust, surprises).

After typing this entry i realized how little my words weigh, looking at myself... but i'm gonna post it anyway ;p

August 22, 2006 at 7:36 PM  

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